The holidays are upon us and while this time of year brings lots of excitement and wonder, it may also bring about hidden dangers. With school breaks, travel, and more time spent in different environments, children may be in situations where abuse could occur and where warning signs might be missed.
Research shows that 90% of children know their abuser and a large portion of offenses are committed by other juveniles and peers. While these statistics are frightening, adults and caregivers can help prevent abuse by creating safe spaces for children and youth that allow them to enjoy the season, while also staying safe.
Why the Holidays Can Be a Vulnerable Time for Children
Below are some of the reasons this time of year may be more challenging when it comes to child safety:
- Less Supervision – With schools closed and parents juggling work, shopping, and events, children may spend more time with extended family, friends, or caregivers who aren’t part of their daily lives.
- Changes in Routine – The structure of school days is replaced with irregular schedules, which can make it harder for children to communicate concerns or for adults to notice changes in behavior.
- Social Pressure – Family gatherings often involve physical greetings like hugs or kisses. While well-intentioned, these can make children feel pressured to accept unwanted contact.
- Overcrowded Environments – Busy homes, parties, and public events can make it easier for inappropriate behavior to go unnoticed.
- Heightened Stress – The holidays can be an expensive, and things like family conflicts, and the expectations of a ‘perfect’ holiday can create additional stress and strain on families.
Ways to Keep Children Safe During the Holidays
Here are some simple but effective ways to protect children during the holiday season:
Teach and Respect Boundaries
Let children know they have the right to say “no” to any touch or interaction that makes them uncomfortable—regardless of who it is. Support them if they choose not to hug or kiss someone, even a family member.
Stay Connected During Events
Even at family gatherings, check in with children regularly who are hanging out or playing in different spaces. A quick check in can give them the chance to share if something feels wrong and let them know adults will be popping in. According to statistics provided by Darkness to Light, abusers commonly isolate children into one-on-one situations by taking them to isolated areas.
Know the Adults in Their Circle
If your child is spending time away from you—whether for a playdate, sleepover, or trip—make sure you know and trust the supervising adults.
Watch for Behavioral Changes
Be alert to sudden mood swings, withdrawal, fear of certain people, or reluctance to attend events. These can be signs that something is wrong.
Talk About Safety
Talk to children about private parts, safe adults, secrets, healthy sexual development, and when age-appropriate – sex and consent. Let them know they can come to you if they have questions.
Learn the Red Flags of Abuse
Learn the red flags and indicators of abuse so you know the signs. Note that the presence of warning signs doesn’t necessarily mean that a child is being abused. To learn the red flags, visit: https://ocfs.ny.gov/programs/cps/signs.php
Believe a Child
Your first response when a child discloses abuse is one of the most important. It is often hard for a child to come forward and tell someone abuse is happening. Here is a blog post devoted to disclosures and how to respond: http://cacofniagara.org/when-a-child-makes-a-disclosure/
- Stay Calm and Listen – Avoid reacting with shock or anger, as this can make the child feel unsafe to continue sharing.
- Reassure Them – Let them know it’s not their fault and that you will help keep them safe.
- Make the call! If you suspect a child is being abused or maltreated, call the NY State Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-342-3720
Ways to support the CAC this Holiday Season:
- Make a monetary donation. CAC of Niagara Donation Page
- Donate an item on our Amazon Wish List.
- We have an Amazon Wish List that is constantly updated with items identified by our staff. Donating an item directly from Amazon is easy and convenient, and the items ship to our center. Our wish lists stay active all year long!
- Host a fundraiser or drive, or you can choose to donate a % of your raised funds to the CAC! Contact the CAC for more info or email, marissa.virtuoso@nfmmc.org
- Help us raise awareness on social media, share our posts and monthly blog posts.
- Facebook: @cacofniagara
- X: @cacniagara
- Host a training at your organization. We offer many community presentations. Contact the CAC to schedule or email, marissa.virtuoso@nfmmc.org.
Additional Resources:
Darkness to Light: https://www.d2l.org/child-sexual-abuse-research-and-statistics/
